We often try to define ourselves by the standards the media set on what is beautiful and what isn't. It's so easy to get caught up in someone else's fantasy on what one should look like and dress like that we end up hating everything that makes us genuine. We begin by wanting to change our names and then our bodies, ultimatly, desiring to create a view pleasing to all those around us.
"Be who you are. Express yourself," some say. Though are you really being who you are? Comparing yourself to the looks of the rich and famous is unhealthy to your self esteem. While there is nothing wrong with admiring the looks of those you adore, in order to be happy with who you are, you must learn to love yourself the way you are.
This is not to say that if there is something you want to change about yourself, you shouldn't. Though the key is changing because you want to and not because you want to win the approval of others. People's influence devalues us in so many ways. From compliments someone's looks to the body language displayed towards one we find attractve etc. We let this play into our own opinion of ourself. Being liked and accepted makes us feel good even if we have no intention on getting close to anyone. Compliments still keep us buzzing. But soon, so many of these factors play into our self worth that before we approve anything about ourselves, we need someone else's opinion first. That may not be bad but sometimes depending on these opinions, we make changes we feel are necessary to fit in.
It's time to finally start opening up our minds and examining who we really are. Take yourself for instance; unmask yourself. What makes you tick? What makes you happy? And what makes you beautiful? Once you've answered those questions then your ready for the real question. Do you love who you are? If your answer to that is no, then your missing out. No one can make you love you. But it would be a shame to go through life getting to know everyone else and allowing your best gift, so close pushed so far.
If you don't know who you are, it's time to start. You'll find that despite what the world brings your way, you can love yourself and be yourself through anything.
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